Sober Intervention
An intervention is the first step towards addiction recovery. It is particularly relevant for inducing willingness to change in your loved one who may be resistant to accepting help e.g. treatment, detox, rehab, etc.
Interventions have been successfully used by Sober Services since 2008 to confront and address serious personal problems, including alcoholism, compulsive gambling, drug addictions, substance abuse including prescription pill dependancy, compulsive eating and other eating disorders, self harm, OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder) and other behavioural health conditions.
A Sober Intervention is one of the most loving and compassionate things you can do for someone struggling with addiction, as it helps them to realise the damage they’re doing not just to themselves, but also to the people who love and support them. It is often the first time they realise that their behaviour is genuinely a problem and requires addressing to secure a permanent solution - recovery.
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The Association of Intervention Specialists is a network of professional interventionists across the world. Interventionists guide families and friends, business executives, and others through the intervention process to urge the family and addicted person to accept help. All full members are Certified Intervention Professionals exceeding educational and performance standards.
Code of Ethics: All AIS members adhere to the AIS code of ethics. The code preserves compliance with legal and ethical standards, and safeguards AIS member’s clients. Learn more
the 10 stages of a sober intervention
Here are the 10 stages of a Sober Intervention
The Sober Intervention always starts with a full gathering of as many of the family and friends as are able to join us, but we never include the addict or the alcoholic at this stage. It’s vitally important that they do not know that we’re meeting to discuss them and their addiction. Between three and six people is a good number.
Agree that you will maintain complete confidentiality and that no one will inform the addict / alcoholic. This is so important.
During this first consultation we’ll be discussing the facts about the addict, and noting all the harmful behaviour that you’ve all observed. You’ll be explained how and why we write everything down in letter format which will be read out to the addict during the actual Sober Intervention.
We’ll be focussing on the 3 parts of this letter
- Absolute Love
- Complete Honesty
- Strong Boundaries
We shall be planning what each of the group will say and in which order.
We will examine how we believe the addict will react and what barriers they’ll throw up. We want to be able to completely anticipate their answers beforehand and have all our answers ready to fully address their denials, tears, anger and so forth.
Whoever is leading the Sober Intervention (from Sober Services) will work individually with everyone to ensure that the letters are well written and that everyone is able to stick to the plan of action, especially the Strong Boundaries in the 3rd We’ll also make sure there’s enough Absolute Love throughout without judgement, and that the Complete Honesty is a fair assessment and factual rather than assumed.Between each section of the letter the phrase “Will you accept the help we’re giving you today?” will be inserted. This will be repeated throughout the Sober Intervention and will become like a mantra for the addict / alcoholic to keep hearing.The Sober Interventionist will arrange to have individual consultations over the phone or via skype, to make sure everyone’s letter is written in the correct manner.
Every person will email their letter to the Sober Interventionist so each one has a copy whilst talking through it and looking for ways to improve the letter.
Choosing the right treatment facility will depend on a great deal of different factors including location, culture, length of programme, detox facilities, and maybe most importantly, budget.
Sober Services will help you make the right choice and will set up all the connections for a smooth admission on the day. We’ll need to make sure that we’re able to pack the addict’s bag and that a passport is available if they need to travel by air. We need to make sure their diary will not throw up any objections that will override the decision to accept the help we’re trying to give them. Things like Court Cases, or Weddings, or important work commitments will need to be discussed and overcome.
Remember, this is about offering a graceful exit to their addiction, not making it feel like they’ve been forced.We will also agree on who the leading member of the family and friends will be. This is the person whom the Addict respects or listens to the most, often one of the Parents, though not always. It could be a spouse or sibling or even one of the elder children.
Our dedicated team are here to help if you have any questions.
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Benefitted greatly from Ian’s input
We employed Ian to offer cocaine addiction consultancy and training to our leading lady – Zawe Ashton, so that she could play the part of a policewoman with a drug habit. Ian did so much more than help her understand how to act like a cocaine addict, but over a number of sessions he went on to make suggestions regarding the complete psychology and behavioural patterns of an addicted person, which positively impacted the complete credibility of the film. I know that our movie benefitted greatly from Ian’s input and I will be recommending him and his Sober Consultancy services in other Lionsgate movie productions
We have no hesitation in recommending their services
We have been using sober services virtually since their inception in 2008. We have no hesitation in recommending their services to all those who think they may need them.
Our experience in working with them is first class, and so is their service concept and attitude.
We believe Sober Services are an intrinsic part of our success. Their ability to respond almost instantly is something we have not experienced before, and becomes a valuable resource when dealing with clients’ during a time of personal crisis.
We are proud to offer Sober Services as part of our structure.
Knowing you are there is reassurance enough for me
It’s almost a year since I was first put in contact with you and what a year it has been!
I really just wanted to say a huge thank you again to you.
As well as making the trip to SA to collect Dad, the support you gave me throughout the hardest time in my life was beyond invaluable.
I think the work you and your team do is amazing and families who use your services are lucky to have that level of understanding and support.
I hope we don’t need to use your services again but to knowing you are there is reassurance enough for me!
Best wishes and thanks
Suddenly there was someone a professional
“To any family feeling helpless, frustrated and like there is no way forward to help your alcoholic loved one, please phone Sober Services now.
There is a way forward. I phoned to learn about the Intervention – a word that conjured up terrible images.
It was an emotionally fraught time.
After just one phone call I had clicked with Ian (who took the call), been reassured about the Sober Intervention service on offer and, most importantly, been convinced that finally, finally, somebody understood our situation and had a clear way forward for us to help our Dad.
During the emotional rollercoaster week after that first phone call, knowing Sober Services were on hand, on our side and committed to working with us was like being wrapped in a security blanket. Suddenly, there was someone, a professional, available 24/7 to answer all our questions and provide both emotional and practical support.
If you have a loved one who is an alcoholic (drinking, recovering or any stage in between) and you need help, phone Sober Services.
It will be the single best thing you have ever done for yourself and your loved alcoholic.”
Thank you for giving me my brother back
Dear Ian,
It was around this time last year I contacted you and asked for your help providing an intervention to help me, my family, and most importantly my brother.
You found us all in a very dark place. My family was torn apart and ruined. We struggled to see a light at the end of the tunnel, and all felt truly lost. After battling with my brothers addiction for nearly 10 years, after trying every avenue and failing time and time again, we had hit rock bottom, desperate to help him but finally accepting defeat.
But now after your successful Sober Intervention and residential rehab recommendation we are approaching my brothers one year anniversary.
One year of being clean and sober!
This is a sentence I cannot stop repeating to myself.
For each time I do, am left feeling astonishingly proud of my brother.
Proud of his achievement, who he has become and the path he is creating for himself.
This was something I not only thought was impossible, but has now created the foundation of my new relationship with him.
Ian, thank you for everything you have done for all of us.
We are a completely different family now, a happy one.
Thank you for giving me my brother back.
x
Offers her a good chance of Living
My daughter is an alcoholic and was on a downhill spiral. She had been in rehabs before but was unwilling to undergo further rehab treatment. I was deeply concerned about the traditional concept that the alcoholic has to reach ‘rock bottom’ before any meaningful treatment would work. This gambles that in the interim the alcoholic won’t die, cause irreversible damage to their body/mind and jeopardise their future by possibly having a criminal record, debts, losing their home etc.
Sober Services offered a different approach of ‘intervention’ before the alcoholic descends into the possible terrifying consequences mentioned above. The intervention process, which is explained in the Sober Services programme, whilst being very stressful for myself and my family, was effective in that despite my daughter’s initial strong resistance to further detox and rehab she ended up undergoing detox in the UK and rehab in South Africa.
Ian Young and his team at Sober Services were extremely helpful in:-
(1) the lead up to the actual intervention process
(2) participating in the intervention meeting with my daughter and family members
(3) choosing the right rehab as Ian has extensive knowledge of various rehab possibilities both domestically in the UK and abroad.
(4) putting together a programme to cover the post rehab situation for my daughter.
Throughout the process Ian was always contactable which was hugely important to myself and he gave advice to family members on the actions they needed to take as part of the intervention.
I appreciate there are no absolute guarantees that my daughter will remain alcohol free forever but I felt the intervention process at least offers her a good chance of living rather than the highly probable dire consequences of the ‘rock bottom’ approach.
I wouldn’t have it any other way
Thank you for designing and coming to my family intervention in November 2017 with my Dad, Mother & brother David. It saved my life!
After going to Detox you sent me to Rehab in Suffolk & I stayed there for 9 months. I left in September 2018.
I’ve now relocated & am 22 months clean & sober. I work closely with my Fellowship Sponsor & I’ve been through the 12 steps with her. I am now sponsoring someone else & taking her through the Big Book.
I have my family back in my life & I surround myself with decent friends. I volunteer at a rehab and am being trained up as a support worker. I also work at the food bank in town.
I do a bit of service at 12 step meetings, taking the woman’s AA meeting & I have now just taken over as secretary at a CA meeting in town.
I wouldn’t have it any other way. Recovery has given me my life back & I’m happy for the first time ever, I’m so grateful to you for intervening and for the programmes of AA & CA.
Sober Services operates under the ethical guidelines of EARS - European Association of Recovery Specialists, and as such we do not engage in patient brokering (also known as “double dipping”) and we maintain our integrity as an independent provider and family consultant within the industry.
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Reasons for a Sober Intervention
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